Resolving personal conflicts

RecklessTim · 04-10-2008, 03:08 PM

Personal conflicts happen in all communities, even online ones. There are certain people you may not get along with or agree with here as any other community, but this should be looked on as a strength and not a weakness. But with this diversity comes responsibility of the staff to keep things civil, and in this we have been soft, hoping members would be able to work out their own personal problems. This doesn't seem to work all the time, so we are going to make a few changes and suggestions for the members here.

1. We will be enforcing the No Insults or Personal Attacks rule with a strong hand. This means if you feel that you are being personally attacked or insulted, you need to report the post in question so we can deal with it. We are also going to ask that you let us handle it and not throw insults or attacks back at the offender, because this makes our job of enforcement of the rules near impossible. How can you expect us to reprimand the offending member when you mount your own counter attack?

2. If you have a personality conflict with another member and you cannot deal with them on the boards, put them on ignore. This is a great feature, use it. Just remember that an internet attack is only successful when the intended victim fights back. If we see a one sided attack going on (meaning you are not fighting back) then we can step in and deal with the situation without complaints since it will be clear to all whom the problem is.

3. If you are attacking, belittling, insulting, trolling or flaming another member, you will be dealt with quickly and decisively. It will not matter if you have been a member for 1 day or 100 days, we will look at the problem and deal with it in an unbiased manner.

4. Veronica is not your mother and I am not your father. We try to look at every situation from an outside perspective. We work very hard at being fair and just in all these situations. But it is very hard when people complain about situations that they themselves are deeply involved in. We cannot babysit every member on the site and step into the middle of every disagreement. This is where we are asking that members step up and take some of the responsibility of keeping this a pleasant site to post at.

Thank you

TheOriginalJames · 04-10-2008, 08:21 PM

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2. If you have a personality conflict with another member and you cannot deal with them on the boards, put them on ignore. This is a great feature, use it. Just remember that an internet attack is only successful when the intended victim fights back. If we see a one sided attack going on (meaning you are not fighting back) then we can step in and deal with the situation without complaints since it will be clear to all whom the problem is.

Just asking.... if this person is a moderator, then what?

BreakfastSurreal · 04-10-2008, 08:25 PM

just dont read my posts then james

Dana · 04-10-2008, 08:26 PM

sounds good... For the love of God... I hope Veronica's not my mothe! I don't want those thoughts in my head!

vshayes · 04-10-2008, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by TheOriginalJames

Just asking.... if this person is a moderator, then what?

If the problem is a moderator, let me or tim know and we will handle it. They will be handled the same as a regular member.. If they are causing problems, they will be demodded (but please talk to TIM about the problems with moderators)

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Originally Posted by Dana

sounds good... For the love of God... I hope Veronica's not my mothe! I don't want those thoughts in my head!

hahah!

c_squared · 04-10-2008, 09:12 PM

That sounds to me veronica. I will try to get along with everyone here, but i don't think that i will have any problems.

TheOriginalJames · 04-10-2008, 10:09 PM

So what happens if I have a problem with Veronica because she's dating an awesome guy, one whos serving his country by killing bastard Iraqis who only get along with their camels, instead of me?

Natasha · 04-10-2008, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by TheOriginalJames

So what happens if I have a problem with Veronica because she's dating an awesome guy, one whos serving his country by killing bastard Iraqis who only get along with their camels, instead of me?

Then you sit in your bedroom and whack it while hating Matt.

Just kidding...maybe.

Peter Parka · 04-10-2008, 10:18 PM

Yes daddy!

The ignore thing though, it makes a lot of threads not make sense because of missing posts.I don't want to read insults but most people can at least make a few posts rellevnt to the topic too.

dt3 · 04-10-2008, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by TheOriginalJames

So what happens if I have a problem with Veronica because she's dating an awesome guy, one whos serving his country by killing bastard Iraqis who only get along with their camels, instead of me?

PM God?

Cotton · 04-11-2008, 07:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Dana

sounds good... For the love of God... I hope Veronica's not my mothe! I don't want those thoughts in my head!

Damn it, I came in her to post that Veronica comment.

RecklessTim · 04-11-2008, 08:39 AM

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Originally Posted by dt3

PM God?

Or me.... same difference

dt3 · 04-11-2008, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by RecklessTim

Or me.... same difference

I was wondering when you'd catch that

groundpounder · 04-19-2008, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by RecklessTim

Or me.... same difference

wait, Tim no longer believes in himself?!?!

That one was teed up just a little bit too high.

Dana · 05-07-2008, 02:27 PM

I have a question about infractions? If you get so many infractions what happens? Ou of curiousity?

04-10-2008, 03:08 PM	#1
RecklessTim Proud Father & Administrator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Allentown, PA Posts: 7,823 Tokenz: 131,809	Resolving personal conflicts Personal conflicts happen in all communities, even online ones. There are certain people you may not get along with or agree with here as any other community, but this should be looked on as a strength and not a weakness. But with this diversity comes responsibility of the staff to keep things civil, and in this we have been soft, hoping members would be able to work out their own personal problems. This doesn't seem to work all the time, so we are going to make a few changes and suggestions for the members here. 1. We will be enforcing the No Insults or Personal Attacks rule with a strong hand. This means if you feel that you are being personally attacked or insulted, you need to report the post in question so we can deal with it. We are also going to ask that you let us handle it and not throw insults or attacks back at the offender, because this makes our job of enforcement of the rules near impossible. How can you expect us to reprimand the offending member when you mount your own counter attack? 2. If you have a personality conflict with another member and you cannot deal with them on the boards, put them on ignore. This is a great feature, use it. Just remember that an internet attack is only successful when the intended victim fights back. If we see a one sided attack going on (meaning you are not fighting back) then we can step in and deal with the situation without complaints since it will be clear to all whom the problem is. 3. If you are attacking, belittling, insulting, trolling or flaming another member, you will be dealt with quickly and decisively. It will not matter if you have been a member for 1 day or 100 days, we will look at the problem and deal with it in an unbiased manner. 4. Veronica is not your mother and I am not your father. We try to look at every situation from an outside perspective. We work very hard at being fair and just in all these situations. But it is very hard when people complain about situations that they themselves are deeply involved in. We cannot babysit every member on the site and step into the middle of every disagreement. This is where we are asking that members step up and take some of the responsibility of keeping this a pleasant site to post at. Thank you __________________ Mr President; It has been reported that you are here to "lecture" us on democracy and human rights. But with a record like yours, you will not be very convincing.

04-10-2008, 08:25 PM	#3
BreakfastSurreal Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: TEXAS YALL!!! Posts: 8,840 Tokenz: 16,170	Re: Resolving personal conflicts just dont read my posts then james __________________

04-10-2008, 08:26 PM	#4
Dana Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Winslow, ME Posts: 8,258 Tokenz: 31,062	Re: Resolving personal conflicts sounds good... For the love of God... I hope Veronica's not my mothe! I don't want those thoughts in my head! __________________ The road through life is rough... Buy a helmet!

04-10-2008, 09:12 PM	#6
c_squared V.I.P User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: canada Posts: 1,021 Tokenz: 1,920	Re: Resolving personal conflicts That sounds to me veronica. I will try to get along with everyone here, but i don't think that i will have any problems. __________________

04-10-2008, 10:09 PM	#7
TheOriginalJames Banned Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 0	Re: Resolving personal conflicts So what happens if I have a problem with Veronica because she's dating an awesome guy, one whos serving his country by killing bastard Iraqis who only get along with their camels, instead of me?

04-10-2008, 10:18 PM	#9
Peter Parka King Of Cunts Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Harlow, Essex, England Posts: 23,362 Tokenz: 112,825	Re: Resolving personal conflicts Yes daddy! The ignore thing though, it makes a lot of threads not make sense because of missing posts.I don't want to read insults but most people can at least make a few posts rellevnt to the topic too. __________________

05-07-2008, 02:27 PM	#15
Dana Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Winslow, ME Posts: 8,258 Tokenz: 31,062	Re: Resolving personal conflicts I have a question about infractions? If you get so many infractions what happens? Ou of curiousity? __________________ The road through life is rough... Buy a helmet! Last edited by Dana; 05-07-2008 at 02:28 PM.

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